We all experience changes of moods.We are aware of it throughout the day.Still,some people experience more suffering,although the law of change and mood swings is universal and equal for everybody. We all share similar attitude towards such changes; a natural tendency to stick and crave for the pleasant stuff and resisting the unpleasant.
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Sometimes I take a risk and play with amateurs that I don't know very well. I am courious how my mind will react and also how they will behave during that round. I know for myself, that in my brain there is a tendency to show up in a good light and to protect my professional status. It took quite a time to know my mind and its strategies and today I know it's only for some kind of protection, game survival that mind wants to play..... There is a lot of confusion about spiritual search for enlightenment nowadays.Various people who claim to be enlightened organize their communities all over the world to help certain individuals to find or achieve the same »light« they have found or become.
It's nothing new these days to see golf professionals with computers and small radars by their side.Thanks to companies like Flightscope and Trackman much more information about the club and ball behaviour is available today than it was a decade ago.Leaving aside the touring pros,a good question arises- which ball flight data will really help average golfer to improve? We like to talk about golf being a mental game and so often we hear the famous phrase that the whole thing is in the head. Despite of this knowing, ironically- we still like to ditch ourselves inside the thought patterns that do us no good and the game reflects our inner state immediately. For the purpose of recognition and awareness of such inner processes,here is a list of 5 unhelpful thinking styles that ruin our days on the greens. Human beings are weird!When we are in emotional pain we usually complain how is that nobody understands us and it seems that nobody cares.At the moments of inner turmoil it is so obvious that we are the only ones with such pain and of course it feels unfair too. But if we look closer into such human behavior than we realize that the opposite is true. How easy is to fall in the trap of happiness with a reason.I can experience such happiness because of new golf clubs,new golf shoes,because I drove the ball so well,because my girlfriend came back,because of job promotion,….Such happiness list could go on and on…….And despite the fact that this kind of feeling soon evaporates into the unknown,we still like to grasp and to repeat it.Until the strive for a permanent high becomes so exhausting that the whole effort turns into depression or a giving up attitude.That’s when we start questioning the purpose of our desires and the meaning of true happiness. I run to the post office and while waiting by the traffic light I notice somebody beside me who looks really strange.I look at this man with a pale face,who is unshaved and unclean,wearing dirty worn- out clothes and looks completely lost in his thoughts.His lips are moving slightly,talking silently to himself.On the floor I notice couple of plastic bags with food and rolls of toilet paper.I think about asking him something and observe how other people react when seeing him.But hardly anybody noticed him for more than a second…… I took a walk outside on a cold winter evening,lost in my thoughts until the sudden and strange scenery froze me on the pavement like a statue.I saw a familiar young man-neighbour who was walking very fast on the other side of the street and was talking and shouting to himself in panic.He was speaking these next words:» Oh,no,not again, please,I can't believe it,no,no,no……..I have enough of this shity life,enough!!!!!!« For those who haven't done the trek in Nepal yet,I would like to briefly describe its main characteristics.You climb up in order to descend and most of the hike the rhythm of walking is up,down,up,down and so on until you reach the goal.When you think that you have arrived at the top or in the village, you have to go down again, because most of the times the villages are built in the valleys.It's really a good test for a character and patience;above all it makes you learn how to forget the goal and appreciate the journey. I got an idea for this title from Jeff Foster (www.lifewithoutacentre.com ) when he was talking about depression and how it occurred to him that depression actually always leads to a deep rest. Why can depression be beneficial? Because it is a sign of our exhaustion and fighting with life and it's telling us (our our ego) to finally give up the fight and let go. We can often hear advices among the amateur golfers to hit a ball with shorter backswing and keeping the head still. Most of them think that they implement such action well, until they see their swing and find out that the club is far from the desired position. Despite the fact that the information on a shorter swing theory may be correct, the majority of players can’t perform that. That happens because our sense perception often doesn’t match with the actual motion. It seems that when we play well everything flows without a trace of doubt in our performance. Our body, club and a ball do exactly what we want from them. Golfers such moments describe by adjectives such as: light, flowing, instinctive, decisive, without thinking, effortless,....These terms usually don’t include technical language that would refer to swing mechanics. Having such an experience we can say that we play in the “zone” or a state of flow. |